When I get the chance, I try to listen to the radio station Power 1051 but their early morning show makes this a rare occasion. Charlemagne, Angela Yee and DJ Envy are the kind of combination that has to be actualized before you can see just how great of a combination they are. A favorite phrase of theirs when discussing female reality stars, strippers or promiscuous socialites getting knocked up by famous men is: “Hoes are winning.” I hear it all the time in my groups of friends and the phrase has gone as far as trickling down into the mainstream blogging websites. Every time I hear the phrase I ask myself what exactly are these “hoes” winning?

Let’s truly think about this for a moment. Most if not all of these reality stars’ main goal is to become famous. Not for any real purpose, not to make any real difference in the world around us, but to exploit their life and the lives of others for their own personal gain and notoriety. When these men decide to get with these women who are blatantly using them for money then cheat on them, the women milk every dollar out of their child support that they possibly can and I do not feel bad for these men.

This may appear as though these “hoes” are getting the jackpot by getting with these rich athletes and rappers but we must evaluate the credentials of these athletes and rappers. Most, if not all, have no formalized education and if they do they left without a degree. They have no idea how to handle their finances, thus spending it on frivolous things with little to no long-term value. The careers of men who choose to wife “hoes” has little to no longevity because if they did, they would not be choosing women who would take everything they worked for through child support.

This all sounds a little bit reductive, but in a generation that celebrates mediocrity and the exploitation of self for fame, it’s important to be able to not get consumed with the superficial fame these women are getting. From the stripper Blac Chyna sharing a child with ‘Make It Nasty’ rapper Tyga, to Kim Kardashian landing yet another affluent celebrity on her bed post, it can be tempting to reduce yourself to nothing more than nothing when it appears as if that is all you need to land the man of your dreams. I guarantee you most of these men are not of any real quality and who wants to have a child with a man who leads a career and lifestyle that does not have marriage fitting into it? More importantly, Tyga is having financial problems from spending beyond his means on a home and his talent in rapping does not suggest he’ll have a career with any longevity. Kanye West is a narcissistic, controlling, musical genius who probably cannot love anyone more than he loves himself.

So I ask yet again: what exactly are these hoes winning in the grand scheme of things other than a package deal that includes heartbreak, wasted time and a child? This is far from an ideal lifestyle for any self-respecting individual which is exactly what these women lack. So next time you’re down and out during finals and are ready to submit a tryout video for King of Diamonds so you can land a basketball player, remember that is truly not the lifestyle worth winning.