Yes he is. Lately I keep hearing of women getting played, used and let down by guys. I can’t even feel bad when I hear some of these stories because there are so many signs that point to failure that women are too naive to see or accept.
It’s not hard to read people by the way they present themselves and their actions. This of course doesn’t account for all the ladies around here because we all know that there are a good amount that just go looking for someone to sleep with, but for those who actually try to meet a guy and date him, be smart.
The first sign of failure is the meeting place. You went out to Paulies and met a great guy who didn’t try to sleep with you? First of all, more than likely he had another agenda for that night and just happened to get caught up with you. And if he doesn’t see you again until next Thursday, then he’s probably just playing the trust card. This thought is surprisingly common even if no one says it out loud; “Oh, he didn’t try to have sex with me last time. He’s obviously in to me and not just sex.” I promise that there’s a better chance of finding a decent guy waiting for a sandwich than waiting for a shot of Jose.
Is he perfect? If you think he’s absolutely perfect and can’t even find a flaw in him, run. Two weeks isn’t nearly enough time to really learn about a person just by hanging out and hooking up. Sometimes a guy will be willing to sit with you and talk for hours while staying genuinely interested in you. And then yes, you might be able to see the real him. But a lot of guys know that a little bit of trust goes along way when you combine it with a lot of camouflage. Most flaws can be covered with a little sweet talk and that just happens to win over a lot of girls that are already interested in them.
If you get caught up on a guy and you think he’s great, please don’t tell me or any other guy for that matter. It’s for both of our sakes. We’re going to think that you’re pathetic and later on, you’re going to regret looking so caught up on some dude that you were barely involved with. If you’re not completely positive that you’re going to be with this guy, don’t make other guys pin you as the clingy, relationship fiend. We all know who they are. A new boy every two months isn’t cute.
If it seems too good to be true, I know that it is. If you haven’t found a flaw yet, you haven’t been looking hard enough. I’m not a pessimist and I’m not even a realist, but you will not find the perfect man. But you don’t need one. You just need someone who’s perfect for you.