It astounds me the way that certain young “men” act in college. Everyone is on different maturity levels and everyone is certainly allowed (and capable) of being immature while they’re in college. The issue I have is when it truly affects other people.
I’m a firm believer in being in a relationship with a person because it’s where you want to be for an extended period of time. Call me old fashioned, but I don’t think a person needs to be with someone else at all times in order to be happy.
When you break up with someone and you run to someone else, it doesn’t do anything but shrink the legitimacy of your previous relationship and show that you can’t be happy while you’re by yourself.
Yes, some people actually find true feelings shifting from one person to the next but we all know the people that are constantly involved with someone else. I’ve heard “she has a new boyfriend every couple of weeks,” quite a few times here but it doesn’t stop at the women. I’ve seen numerous men bounce from one girl to another with little-to-no disregard for their feelings. How were you raised? I can’t imagine spending my time with one woman and dropping her like sand on a beach just to go grab another handful after a few more feet.
Maybe I was just raised better than some of the other guys here, but between the indecisiveness of what they want and the general idiocy that I’ve seen, I don’t even know how women get involved with them. Take a look at a guy’s track record before jumping into a relationship. If they’ve been consistently going between girls in the past, there’s a great chance that it’s not going to change with you.
Men: this is why women think that we’re all the same or that we’re all scum. It’s because they either see their friends getting emotionally destroyed over a guy that swore he wanted to be with her, or they see it firsthand where a boy acts like a man for a few months until resorting back to his natural state. But don’t be scared because when they’re ready, a real woman that’s looking for a real man will be able to recognize the difference.
Women: this is why men don’t want to hear you complain about men. This is because you consistently put yourselves into unfortunate situations that result in you and your friends getting hurt. When you have serious doubts about a man’s character, that should be your big red warning sign telling you to investigate before digging in.
There will of course be problems for each sex. Men will be played by women who seem to not know what they want while women will jump from one guy to the next if they’re not satisfied. My point is that as a young man, raised by a gentleman, I believe it’s our duty and privilege to be honest with our intentions, and be the man that we would allow our daughters to date. I don’t know about any of you, but if I have a daughter and she’s old enough to date (around the age of 30 or 35) her boyfriend better not act like a boy, he better act like a man.