Welcome back to Heaven, or Hell, depending on how well the last five months have gone for you. For the majority of us who spend their college-winter break back at home with mommy and daddy, it can become very evident who, from college, are really our friends.

If you really pay attention and look at how many people asked you how your break went, at some point you just want to say “well, if you really cared, you would’ve stayed in touch over the last month.” To be fair, everyone does that, including me of course, to some extent and to dive into the topic of “being real” or whatever you’d like to call it, would be like falling into a bottomless pit. Rather, I’d like to dive into the much more interesting topic of the high school relationships.

There are plenty of people in each college setting that continue to stay close with their friends from home. Similarly, there are a bunch of people that decide that their college is their niche and it will be few and far between when those people are found reaching out to their high school friends. What I’m more intrigued with is the high school relationships and hook ups that seem to pop up for so many people when they go home.

We all know it happens. It is human nature to strive for companionship, and more so, someone to mate with. But when someone talks to their high school ex over break, I can’t help but chuckle. Seriously? Everyone around you knows that it’s a dumb move. I don’t care if you still have feelings for him/her; aren’t exes in the past for a reason?

Okay, that sounded cliché, but follow me here. No matter what the reason was or who made the decision, you two split. I can kind of understand if you came into college while in a relationship with this person. At least you tried. But if you broke up before college for whatever reason, it wasn’t that serious, you didn’t want to do the long-distance thing, you wanted to experience college, whatever; you’re only kidding yourself.

If you and your high school ex were talking over break, and God only knows what “talking” really means, you’re only causing yourself trouble. It shouldn’t really matter how sexual things got because any rational person should realize that when it hits a sexual level with any type of friend you’re going to have some level of emotions there. Your life isn’t a Nicholas Sparks book, so if you think rekindling an old flame is a good idea, you need to realize that the last chapter between you two more than likely won’t end with a passionate kiss.

There are exceptions to this rule, just like with any other rule, but if that person wasn’t worth the effort then, they’re not worth the effort now. As any other college student with access to technology, I’m all over the internet and saw something interesting that in this case, applies. “Were you in love with your ex? Have you lived without them? If you said yes to both, or no to the first, save yourselves the time and the effort.”