Since the beginning of the world as we know it (when Facebook was invented) there has been one word that has been changed over and over again; relationship. I’m not sure what it is about this word that has suddenly gained such meaning, but ever since “nobody-cares IS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH we-still-don’t-care” came to the internet, the word “relationship” has turned into some sort of unspoken hex. It’s been a hex that has either bonded a pair of people into a feeling of eternal partnership or torn a pair apart because one of them thinks that it’s too serious.

I could go on for days about how dumb Facebook is but I’ll try to keep this part short. Sure, I have one but I’m not like so many other people that feel the need to spend all of their free time telling their 1,326 friends, that they don’t actually talk to, how they are every day. How many people hide their relationship status on Facebook? The answer is, a lot. And what’s there to hide? If you’re single, I hate to tell you but unless you’re newly single, nobody really cares and if you’re in a relationship then why are you hiding it? I know some people still want attention by letting people assume that they’re single, some feel humiliated that they’re single and some others just think there’s more privacy that way. “It’s nobody’s business” is the most ridiculous response to this topic that I’ve ever heard. It’s called social media for a reason. It’s nobody’s business that you’re in a real relationship but thank God you posted an album of 241 pictures of you in the Bahamas for the world to see.

I know too many people who can’t answer the question “are you guys going out?” Is it really that hard to put a label on something without feeling like you’re getting married?

While in college, it shouldn’t take a label for a couple to understand what they’re doing together. If you’re both committed to being with each other then that’s called a relationship. Shocker, I know. But there’s a lot of couples like this where one of them (and often from what I’ve seen, it’s been the female) can’t seem to fully commit.

I completely understand that college is a place where a lot of not-so-relationship friendly things happen and that can be especially hard when both people aren’t staying at college together. But everyone should reach a maturity level at some point where they can realize that if they’re going to spend their time with another person and expect to be trusted, they need to trust that person as well.

Men: the women in your life have probably watched enough movies and read enough Cosmo’s to leave your ass if you aren’t willing to outwardly commit, simply because they don’t want to be tossed to the curb. If you have feelings for her too, you shouldn’t be ignorant enough to keep looking elsewhere.

Ladies: if a man that you have feelings for has committed to you emotionally and sexually, what are you waiting for? I’m well aware of how hard it is to find someone like that, especially in college and if you care about them enough to be hurt if they left, you should be willing to say the R-word too.

No one wants to hurt someone that cares about them, but it’s going to hurt a lot more if you drag out something that you know you’ll never really want. In the end, if you wouldn’t be happy without the other person in your life romantically, it’s time to turn this into a relationship. It’s true when people tell you that you need to do what makes you happy. Also, get off of Facebook, nobody cares.