With the winter in full form and snow on the ground, everyone gets in the mood of not wanting to leave bed in the morning. If your schedule allows it, most of us just wanted to spend our day off on President’s Day, rolled up in our blankets until the late afternoon. And why shouldn’t we? By the start of a new week we have experienced another full load of classes, maybe an internship or a job, and done our collegiate duties to get belligerently drunk at the cost of our livers and dignity. So, why is it that on a night spent in someone else’s bed for sex, people will leave to sleep somewhere else? It’s because they don’t like to cuddle.

I’m not sure if this sounds as ridiculous to anyone else as it does to me, but I don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t want to cuddle after sex; or in general for that matter. If you’re able to strip down, get naked and do the dirty with someone, why can’t you sleep next to them? It’s human nature to want to practice the act of mating, but it’s also human nature to want to be with someone and practice companionship.

I think it’s an enormously wonderful feeling to lay down with someone wrapped in your arms and fall asleep. Cuddling is comforting, relaxing, and above all else in the middle of February, it’s warm.  In reality, there are really only a few reasons I can think of where leaving after sex is understandable.

The first real excuse that I can think of, and that I’m sure everyone else can think of, is the mistake. It’s Thursday night, you got too drunk, and by the time you’re done “bumpin’ uglies” you’ve sobered up enough to realize that you shouldn’t have been there in the first place. Even if this is true, you’ve already done the deed so in my opinion, you might as well use them for a place to sleep. How bad could it be? Okay, that’s rhetorical. It could be real bad.

Next, and another pretty decent excuse in my mind, is the booty call. No, I don’t necessarily condone people running over to someone else’s room and having sex just because they want to, but sometimes our bodies control us and I’ll be the first to admit it when I just want to get in and get out. But even if this is the case, if you’re comfortable enough with someone to go to them, or have he/she come over for a quickie, just enjoy the option of having someone to sleep with for a while. We’re not all so lucky.

Now on to my favorite excuse; “I just don’t like cuddling.” The intimacy issues that surrounded some people blow my mind. If you “don’t like cuddling” I can only imagine that there’s a serious problem. Maybe you’re emotionally scarred from a past relationship or your mom didn’t hug you enough, but simple and plain, there’s something that’s wrong with your outlook on things if you don’t enjoy a good post-sex cuddle-sesh.

I feel like I’ve already made my point, but if you’re comfortable enough with someone to have sex with them and do all the intimate (and sometimes not so intimate) things that sex includes, cuddling should just be the icing on the cake for your night. I understand that there are times where you just want the person for what they can offer you and you don’t want to get emotionally involved, but either you’re using that person or they understand that’s what you want as well. I see no problem in cuddling with someone who you have no emotional attachment to; especially after sex. And if there are emotions there and you won’t snuggle up with them, you have more issues than where you’re sleeping that night. So, I recommend that you do what I do, and cuddle up whenever humanly possible. If nothing else, it will keep you warmer than you would have been.