This is college and when people think about colleges the top 5 things that they usually think about is drinking, sex, drugs, sex (yes, I’m aware I put sex twice) and school work… often in that order. So let’s talk about sex. I don’t want to talk about your fantasies or who you’re trying to do the dirty with; I want to talk about how many people you’ve slept with. It’s interesting to see what kind of people have slept with a lot of other people and that’s exactly what I’m diving in to: your number.

In my opinion, this topic holds too much weight in peoples’ judgments of each other romantically or even sexually. So many people don’t want to get involved with someone who has had “a lot” of partners but who’s to determine what “a lot” is? Is it 100? 50? 20? 10? If it’s just five, shouldn’t it matter more if they all happened in the one year that a freshman has been at college? Think about this; if a fourth year, graduating senior had sex with someone new each semester, that person is already near double digits and that’s not including high school or breaks from school. And still, they may have only had sex once every six months. In a sexually driven atmosphere like a small college campus, six months could seem like eternity to some.

I’m not trying to imply that people should be able to justify every action with their needs, but everyone has those sorts of needs. The real problem is when past sexual experiences collide with future relationships. I think that most people, regardless of their number, would be more comfortable being with someone with a smaller number rather than larger. But I feel like a lot of people don’t look at the positive side of that. Wouldn’t it better to know that your romantic partner has just had flings that have had no romantic basis? Then, at least, you know that you’ve already gained some type of importance in their life.

Of course, I’d prefer a lower number in my girl too and I can only guess that everyone else would feel the same way regardless of any argument, but I hold a lot more weight in the way that the numbers happened. It’s a cliché, but it’s true that safety comes first. I’d be more comfortable with a girl who’s had protected sex with a dozen guys than one who’s only been with four people but been unprotected. At least I’ll know I’m safe no matter what happens. So next time you find out how many people a person has had sex with, think openly about how that person has lived their life rather than assuming that they’ve bad mistakes. And what else have we learned today, class? Don’t be silly, wrap that willy.